I just finished reading Lauren Dane’s Tri-Mates for the second time. It never ceases to amaze me how deep and developed the world of werewolf packs are done in this book. Being born a werewolf versus being ‘made’ makes a difference in their family and ruling hierarchies. When reading the book, I can empathize and completely understand the need and importance of the tri-bond (don’t know what I mean? Get the book!), understand the ramifications of going without one, and practically ’see’ the culture and history of these people.
Yes, it’s fiction, but it makes me step back and take a look at the history of my own cultures (we have several difference races in my family) and how important family is. And how important INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS are. And considering family’s can’t be made without sex…
So, what the hell happened in our own country? I understand according to history that when the Puritans (pilgrims) came over from Europe they brought a lot of misconceptions and negative feelings about sex with them. From there came the teaching that’s been passed down for as long as I can remember - and that teaching is “Good girls don’t.”
I’ve strayed - okay, rocket launched - away from that with my own children and have taught them the beauty and importance of sex in intimate relationships. I’ve also taught them that sex is special and you don’t just toss your backside around to anyone willing to ‘handle’ it.
So what does this have to do with threesomes? Well, in Lauren’s book there is an understanding and acceptance of a threesome for a special, beautiful, very important, life changing reason.
If you’ve read Tri-Mates or any of the Cascadia Wolves series, tell me, do you think you’d be able to accept and participate in a threesome for the reasons mentioned in the book(s)?
Lauren makes her threesomes very believable and incredibly beautiful. It’s a part of the culture of her werewolves. I guess if I was raised as one of them, I would accept it as the norm.
by NJ Walters March 12th, 2007 at 6:18 amWow, TJ, thank you so much.
You too, NJ!
Of course I can’t answer your question TJ, without bias as I created the world, but I’m interested to see what others might say!
by Lauren March 12th, 2007 at 10:35 amYou’re welcome, Lauren. It was a damned good series. Hey, what’s next by the way?
As for me and the threesome thing, heck I’d be trying to steal Gabe! Then get my butt kicked by Tracy and run off to Cascadia to find Cade and pray I smelled right!
by TJ March 12th, 2007 at 11:19 amI don’t know. I’ve got a good start on Tegan’s book, Wolf Unbound but with my schedule and EC’s schedule it’s looking like I won’t be able to finish it until the summer which means probably next year.
by Lauren March 13th, 2007 at 11:14 amWell, I’ll admit it. I think I’d participate. Lauren handles the emotions, the worries and fear, and the special connection between the mates in a way that, though unconventional, almost makes me wish for such a loving relationship of my own.
by Bonnie Rose Leigh March 13th, 2007 at 4:25 pmI love reading about threesomes. Some times I am stuck between wanting the heroine to get together with hero A or hero B and cannot decide and would really love it if she just got both of them. It is so nice when it turns out that way.
by Kris March 13th, 2007 at 4:35 pmTruthfully, I would have no problem with a threesome if I cared about the men and visa versa. I think it would be interesting to have someone always available. I think it would be wonderful for two guys to have each other. Maybe one of them could cook? That would be nice.
by anny cook March 13th, 2007 at 5:08 pmI love the way Lauren portrays her characters. If that type of relationship and caring was available to me, I would be there in a heartbeat. :)
by Cindy B March 13th, 2007 at 5:57 pmI think that a threesome is fine if there were love between them. :)
by ingrid March 13th, 2007 at 9:23 pmFor me the interaction and emotion between the three has to be real and loving. I’ve only read Lauren’s and she does them very well. I enjoy reading them.
by shelly March 13th, 2007 at 9:44 pmI think I’m in the bag with most of you. I’m almost tempted to run over to the NorthWest and see if there is a werewolf pack that thinks I smell right. At least wolves mate for life. Can’t say the same for humans, unfortunately.
Having been in two marriages (both men had affairs) I like the way Lauren takes care of the need for a third person in the relationship to anchor the FEMALE, and how the married man has no desire WHAT-SO-EVAH to stray to another woman’s bed. EVER!
And I don’t think he minds cooking!
Can you tell I’m feeling this?
by TJ March 14th, 2007 at 9:01 amI love the way that Lauren describes the characters, their motivation, and the emotional component of a threesome. Since reading her books, I think I’d be down for a threesome. I wonder if truth would be better than or worse than fiction.
by Jennifer L. March 14th, 2007 at 9:08 amI love Lauren’s Cascadia wolves and would be able to handle that situaion under those circumstances. I like how the Cascadia thing works since it is done with caring and is done for added security and support.
Don’t know that I’d just go out and have a threesome, though. I’ve read lots of threesome books and my favorites are the ones where she gets to keep both.
I think most of us women like the mate for life thing. It gives a sense of security we don’t get in real life.
by Holly March 14th, 2007 at 10:03 amY’all are so good for my ego
When I write menages, I want to try and give it some realism - it’s not something that would be easy in the long run so *why* would it work? Paranormals give you a nice way to explain it and with Gabe, Tracy and Nick, it just wrote itself.
I want there to be love always, and I want there to be assurances no one in the trio is going to want to stray outside it.
by Lauren March 14th, 2007 at 11:33 am