I have a dilema. My mom-in-law, who is absolutely fabulous, is 74 and lives out of state. She’s getting married in a couple of weeks (woohoo!). My supposed-to-be-ex-husband is more than likely bringing his girlfriend to the wedding. This man also wants to just pretend we were never married and is living his life accordingly. Fine with me.
So, what’s my problem - My son has met this woman, but I’ve been asking to meet her for a year. I’m feeling a bit awkward about going to the wedding. I’m a very straight-forward person, but in this case I don’t know how to act. Not only have I not met her, but the supposed-to-be-ex hid his relationship with her, among other things, for almost a year and I don’t know if she’s aware of MY relationship to the man SHE’S living with. I’m part of his family (when my mom-in-law comes to Colorado, she stays at MY house!) and don’t plan to pretend I’m not. How will he introduce me to this kid (she’s 13 years younger than me), as … who? I’d like to introduce you to “Some chick my mom just happens to like a lot?” Or will he introduce me as “The lady who happens to have the same last name as his son?”
Geesh, it’s enough to make me want to sit down and eat a whole pie! So…I had to go find out what kind of pie I am:
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You Are Lemon Meringue Pie |
 You’re the perfect combo of sassy and sweet Those who like you have well refined tastes |
So after I went HERE to check out the pie thing, my good friend of fifteen years (a gorgeous red-headed guy who was the inspiration for Gift Wrap Optional, though I ain’t never unwrapped the package), he suggested that I not put myself in a situation that’s going to be emotionally trying, or at best, a train wreck. My mom understands, but really wants me there.
So, what would you do? Other than eat pie, that is… and what kind of pie are you, by the way?
Any chance your gorgeous friend would go with you to the wedding? If this were a romance story, he would be drop dead sexy, would hang on your every word, make you feel totally great about yourself, with the added bonus of making your ex choke on his champagne. But, in real life, I would probably save myself the grief and stay home.
by cathy April 5th, 2007 at 5:11 pmHey Cathy,
I think I’m totally leaning that way. By the way, what kind of pie did you turn out to be?
TJ
by TJ Michaels April 5th, 2007 at 5:22 pmI’m a mud pie!! Go figure
You know, TJ, this is your husband’s problem. He’s the one who has told the fibs etc. I’d go to the wedding and enjoy. Besides, even if you put off the meeting this time, the meeting will have to come at some stage. And did you know that weddings are great places to meet men? That’s what they say…
by Shelley Munro April 6th, 2007 at 2:27 amI’d ask the friend who inspired Gift Wrap Optional to come as your ‘date’, have yourself a fabulous time at the wedding of a woman you you really enjoy and care for, eat pie and maybe drive the ex crazy in the mean time *g*
by Erin the Innocent April 8th, 2007 at 3:16 pmI LOVE YOU GUYS! Guess I’m going to a wedding! LOL!
at the supposed-ex!
by TJ Michaels April 8th, 2007 at 6:52 pmTJ,
I don’t mean to be a rain cloud. But what if you were the other woman?
This happened to me before. It’s not her fault your “supposed-ex” (not quite sure what that means) has not told you or her all the details.
Is this really worth hurting an innocent person? I realize she needs to find out the truth sooner or later, but in my humble opinion that’s his burden to carry.
I’m not saying you should not go to the wedding. I just wanted to point out that someone else besides your ex stands to get really hurt over this.
by Yurika Erdmann April 16th, 2007 at 5:13 pmOh Yurika, that’s so awful that you were put in a position where you got hurt. That’s just terrible.
In the end, it’s my mom’s big day. Not mine. Not his. If he’s stupid enough to bring his girlfriend knowing he hasn’t been truthful with her, then I think it’s his problem to deal with.
I would not treat her badly. Not my style. Actually I’ve been asking to meet her since she spends time with my son, but the supposed ex (meaning we’re still married but he’s declared via e-mail that he’s now divorced) keeps putting it off.
It’s certainly not the girlfriend’s fault he’s a jerk (which is probably something she should know) but I’m not going to hurt my mom by missing her last wedding (she’s 74) because the ex is a jerk. And I’m not going to miss her big day for a woman I don’t know.
And Dr. Laura agrees with me *giggle* Totally off topic, but I liked her hair when it was longer. She’s got a cute haircut now, but I’m so used to the old way it just looks weird. But then, I still like Cookie Monster (talk about hanging on to the old days :D)
by TJ Michaels April 16th, 2007 at 8:52 pm